Why do we have to choose?

Why does society make parents, particularly mothers feel like they have to choose between being a mother or having a career? 🤔

I have grown up to be so career focused. I have worked hard. Finished university, done my masters and went straight into work.

I do not want to sacrifice my career or motherhood.

When I was preparing to go on maternity leave, I thought that I would go back to work after 9 months. When 9 months came, I did not feel AT ALL like I was ready to go back yet. I spent a huge chunk of my pregnancy and after I gave birth, in lockdown- so I stayed at home for a year.

I appreciate that I have been lucky to have the support that allowed me to do this however, to be honest, it’s been 2 months since I have returned to work and I did not expect the changes.

People laugh off ‘baby brain’ but jokes aside, adapting to being a working mum with a baby is definitely a huge milestone. People do it all the time but as a first time mother, this is of course new to me.

So many mixed emotions and the mum guilt overwhelmed me and so, surprise!: Hope attends childminder now.

Relatable right?

I was warned that going back to work as a new mother would be a different feeling, I mean, it is not like going back to work after some annual leave! It has meant that my attention is divided.

Putting Hope in childcare was extra hard. My baby that had never left my side, in the hands of another. Well!….. I would like to tell you, my baby has never cried once, my baby is walking, my baby is doing so good! Though my worries were valid, my point is, she is doing really well.

I definitely wasn’t phased into work but I would like to think that I am doing okay now. My motto for motherhood: take each day as it comes and daily, I am trying to apply this to my working life.

Some days I feel like I am smashing it and other days, after a long day at work, I feel like I’m the one being smashed. But hey, I know that I will Eventually get there and find a routine. I will find ways to spend quality time with my daughter, have time for myself, be a wife, daughter and sister- how? I don’t know but I will because these are the many hats I wear and I’m wearing them with pride.

With this being said this is me. This is I. I am Mama Hope first and foremost AND I am damn good at my job! I may not feel like this all the time but this blog post is a reminder. 🥰🙏🏾

How are you mumma’s doing? Are you back at work yet? How are you managing?! Let me know in the comments below.

With love,



One thought on “Why do we have to choose?

  1. My baby is 10 Months now and I’m still nowhere near ready to leave him with anyone else, I tried going back to work when he was 7 months and it was the hardest thing and had to find the courage to say I’m just not ready, so I absolutely understand your worries. You’re smashing it mama it takes serious courage to get back out there and you’re doing it, some of us are still not there lol but I remind myself everyday that it’s not because I’m weak it’s just that I’m not ready and I know I will get there. Your blogs as usual is always a reminder of how I’m not alone in this and to take everyday as it comes. Keep winning Girl and thank you xx


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